lifestyle,love and emotions

Just like the lilies of the valley bloom !may our days be brightened,

May our hearts be filled with peace and love , harmony and calmness…

In the midst of distress and despair may we find hope and a hand to hold on to …

Just like our fingers ,we shall all never be the same ,there will always be a difference … ,There is power in individualism ,there will be those who fit in and those who don’t ,based on various reasons known to different groups, there will be the good enough and the not good enough for someone or something … You will either be good at something or not good atol … I would love to appreciate the individuals who dare to be themselves no matter what the society or people had to say ,it just fueled them to continue moving and climbing …its not easy to say NO when everyone else is saying YES ,to be in a group where everyone is thin and you are plump, or even be in a position where you have to choose between staying and going or right and wrong …

Majority of the time when you choose you above everyone else , you will clash with most of the people if not all …,but that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t keep moving ,it instead should drive you towards your goal in life …. there will be multiple episodes where you will doubt yourself along the road , trust me i have those too , you begin asking yourself if you are good enough or if you are going to make it ,you even go to an extent of comparing yourself to your peers ,friends, e.t.c but what you only see from those who you are trying to compare yourself to are the good times , what about whats trully going on behind the curtains ,or each times they go to sleep you don’t know what they go through too ,, well the reality of life is this,, no matter how good someone’s life may seem to be there is always a story they cannot give you , and also behind a life that is seemingly incomplete ,lies a beautiful human who is still trying …

We are all blessed differently ,what we need to do is tap right into it and find our purpose, “To some he gave the spirit of patience , to some the spirit of kindness, to others he extended the gift of helping others .” We shall all never be the same ,, instead of looking down upon people ,appreciate that God took his time to mould you and them to where we all are , yes while some got to finish our education up to the Bachelors level or even the PHD, remember there is someone who ended theirs, at class 5, or even the last day they sat in a classroom, was when they sat for their final paper of primary school. Some by choice , some by forces of situations. While flaunting on the streets with your parent’s borrowed car trying to show your peers or friends that you are doing much better than them …, Remember there is someone who saved up and bought their own cars at 30 , You laughed at your friend for settling early in marriage and having kids , while you were chasing at your career day in ,day out , well she took her time and she went back to school completed while still raising her family and she graduated , you see my aim is not to put anyone down but to encourage that we all have different phases of our lives and to each we have our own problems and demons to fight ,we don’t have a timeline as to when we are supposed to live life , you can still choose to skip a year of uni , start your business and go back to school. You can also choose to start your family whenever you are comfortable …you can choose to quit an annoying , peace draining job and start your own company ,you can still drive at 40, let no one ever put you down in the name of they followed some time line , i know people and friends who gave birth immediately after highschool, took time out , joined college/university , or that one friend who gave birth on her graduation day , and still life never stopped for them , they turn out to be some of the strongest women we know in our individual groups .or Men who had to stop their education at highschool ,because they had to take over being the bread winners of their homes at such a young age and take their siblings to school, or even quit a high paying job ,just to believe in themselves and grow something of their own and later achieve success in their 40’s ,think of the Man who has to combine alot of freelance jobs while still having a main job,just to provide the best for his family .You cannot compete with people who have had to struggle to reach where they are ,to start their own brands from zero.

While we still alive , lets live with gratitude , so sad when you read or hear stories of your peers commiting suicide ,just because life hasn’t turned out how they wanted it to turn up , they forget the media is poisonous , if you trully want to die young , go comparing yourself to people in the media , just know that the media only portrays what they want you to see ,alot is filtered , even the photos ,people are dealing with issues , worse than even yours but they won’t let you see them ,coz they are faking it for the gram , be wise …

When i was a child i use to say , ” i want to grow up so fast so that i can have a life of my own and enjoy life.” Well i use to think adults enjoyed more than us ofcourse , they had control over us and it just seemed like being an adult comes with so much power , well now that am an adult nearing my mid twenties i just want to go back and be a child again and never worry about how i need to plan my future every single day ,and look for jobs and think of the furniture i want to purchase and the wi-fi that cannot pay itself …but there is joy in growing trust me ,i would say take note and enjoy every stage of life . I wish i was a child again but i love growing up it comes with alot of sense of responsibility , self awareness, taking care of yourself , being accountable to yourself, making decisions for yourself ,e.t.c ….what excites me about life is that you choose to make it what you want …move with your own timings ,let no one rush you or put pressure in you , so long as you set your mind and heart right everything will fall into place . Shine at your own timing darling ,you are brilliant.

PEACE AND LOVE .