lifestyle,love and emotions

Its sad how life can turn from bliss to pain from one moment to another …

Remember how you grew up ? Back from that humble beginning ,and how your mama would sacrifice everything just to plaster a big smile across your lips?, Remember when your Papa passed on, leaving the cruel world behind , no one to look after your mama and the goats ? You wondered who would tend to all that …but the sun kept rising ,patiently waiting for you to rise too…

Remember how you lived a fancy life , with your family intact and happy , struggle was no where close to be found in your dictionary, as they say all is well that ends well but luck was not on your side your parents got divorced and it turned your entire life around … Meeting the both apart ? With supervised times and days ?it sucks ,,,,, but the sun kept rising ,patiently waiting for you to rise too…

Remember all the tears you cried , facing a traumatized childhood ? When the society could not allow you to talk because if you talk you will be seen as the most indecent person on earth ,”How dare you raise your voice to say you are in pain and you are being tended too , your fee is being paid , you have a roof over your head , you have a comfortable life” the society has its own way of how you should and should not behave no matter what you are going through , live with it , its better kept than spoken out ,,, slowly the pain still doesn’t go it still finds away to climb into your adult hood and you are still silent but the sun kept rising,patiently waiting for you to rise…

Remember you grew up an orphan in an orphanage ,,, with all the other kids , life brought you its disappointments and its happy moments to cling on … It wasn’t easy but you grew up despite the struggles…you felt you needed more ,more than that life but still the sun kept rising ,patiently waiting for you to rise …

Remember struggling in a marriage that you thought would last till forever ,,,, but its failing and you are still smiling down at it , you don’t have the strength but the sun is still rising ,patiently waiting for you to rise …

Remember the nights and days you cried ,praying for a child ,for God to bless your womb ,they were painful and most frightening ,taking away your sanity slowly by slowly but the sun is still rising ,patiently waiting for you to rise …

Remember the sibling rivalry that grew ,from competition to choosing who is the best sibling on your side ,?and going on fixed lunch and birthday dates and no posting so that the other sibling won’t know and cause a fuss or play favourites for some reason, And you still stood alone ..but the sun is still rising ,patiently waiting for you to rise …

We all have a story to tell , but my heart goes out all to those you cannot tell their stories ,Because social norms do not allow you to express how you trully feel ,it is either you are too revealing or too biased , either you are too thin or too thick , it is never enough … My heart goes out to the traumatized , still battling childhood demons , unresolved issues which will never be talked about because its either you forget or get the hell out … In a society where kids commit suicides makes me think twice of parenting ,gives me shivers and pains in my heart …

In my hearts of hearts in my generation young adults from the age group of 22-27 this is my own survey basically 6 out of 10 have and are still battling childhood traumas , 4 out 10, are faking life either on social media o in real life … Makes me wonder if people are still battling this,,, then how many have entered into parenthood will knowingly or unknowingly pass on their traumas to innocent children therefore reliving a life you never wanted for your own kids and leading to a generation full of happy photoshoots but sad and depressed children … Its not their fault ,,, it is not their parents faults but you can choose to stop it and end it all with you choose to heal from your traumas to make way for a beautiful an happy generation being born …

Nowadays people are more concern about their mental state , people are moving away from people and things that don’t bring happiness to them , people have reached a point of saying ” it doesn’t matter how close we are , family or not if my mental health is suffering because of you then i have to let you go” people are no longer in the age of compromising their happiness , social norms are slowly being thrown away … Ofcourse people have realised that even when you choose to suffer inorder to fit in ,you will never fit in come what may , and even after you have had enough and die because of depression or suicide no one will care after all the sun is still going to rise but only this time you won’t be there to rise ,it will rise over your grave , and they will stare down at you and pour touching stories of your life and how they never thought you would do such a thing as if they noticed your cry for help ,or your last message which was not proper and some lines were missing , they will say how much you wanted to go,, not knowing how much pain staying brought to you ,,and because they couldn’t change the blame was and will always be on you …

I hope this article made you check on your mental health , it is the leading cause of death in our generation and almost everyday you won’t miss something on mental health on our streets ,class, homes, friendship groups ,church, e.t.c…

Take the best control ,speak out ,seek help to get your mind on check , above all never give up especially on YOURSELF … And remember self-care is speaking out whenever you are wronged even though they will say you are always like that or come up with ways to stop you from expressing your mind , you can always be told there you go again ,,,, just know they are always aware you are going to speak out but they don’t want you to speak coz they don’t know how much you are hurting but speak anyway , saying no doesn’t mean you are being disrespectful…

If someone communicates their boundaries that is them trying to keep you in their lives not pushing you away … And above all remember fall in love with becoming the best version of yourself but with patience , with compassion and respect to your own journey … Have good intentions and share the light 🍂

The sun will always rise , patiently waiting for you to rise whenever you are ready 💫