lifestyle,love and emotions

So here i stand ,i close my eyes to old ends and open my heart to new beginnings . Someone once told me success is not the key to happiness but happiness is the key to success ,if you love what you do then you will be successful.

I love the taste of new beginnings ,don’t you? It’s like bliss ,like opening a new clean page ,its beautiful ,in my life i have gone through certain things that taught me major lessons ,made me change my mindset ,made me grow in certain areas and how i look at and perceive life .so i came up with a list of only 5 lessons i learnt and am still learning in this journey .i hope in one way or another it will inspire you ☺️

1.Your childhood traumas will haunt you into your Adulthood.

True to this , there are certain things we underwent in our childhood that hit us right to the core ,it took away most of the things we saw as hope or climbing stones , i have come to learn that people take so much energy to try and forget about their past than to heal and move forward ,not because they want to stay there but because it put them in a state that it becomes so hard to let go .i would say try in as much as possible to seek help if possible ,seek therapist sessions, if you cannot try find help in every way possible ,because healing is the best weapon you can ever use against things and people that hurt you so bad and cause you traumas ,funny enough is that their lives will move on and you will be stuck there for the rest of your life .i will encourage you that yes it gets better trust me ,you will encounter beautiful people with pure hearts and intentions , you will meet new opportunities in life , you will have people depending on you ,you will make brand new memories with people so hold on and remember to always move towards letting go it may be hard but let go of that burden ,its too heavy for your heart and it will hurt your back ,instead forgive even though they’ve never or will never ask for your forgiveness ,forgive them so that it will ease your burden, love from a far to protect your peace ,some people will never change and if you feel that their energy will always dissolve yours its better to love them from a far because they will never bring the best out of you .

2. A hand to hold and a hand to shake .

Trust me i learnt the hard way , there will be people ,friends in life you will encounter or have already encountered and in one way you wish you only shook their hands rather than hold on to them , true because some people are just passing clouds they are not meant to walk with you into your future , ave always heard people say that there are friends for a season and a reason and there are others for a lifetime , there are friends who are not happy for you in the background but smile and laugh with you ,you might not know who they really are until they are exposed through certain situations ,there are friends who will stab you in the back ,those who are with you because you are up at the moment but the moment you fall they move and watch you fall, others are the one’s who love that you are not doing good but when you start climbing your ladder up they become so frustrated and still want you to come down so that you can be at the same level they are in ,then there are the friends who never let go through thick and thin they are always standing with us ,and i don’t know but for some reasons God made them so scarce and rare trust me they dont even fill your five fingers they are around one or two

“Ess ,calling you my best friend is an understatement ,you are my soul sister ,you’ve literally been my day one ,the first person i think to call whenever i have good or bad news , we have the purest form of friendship that doesnt need anything to depend on , since we were toddlers playing in the grass and all those childhood games ,come to think of it you’ve always been in my journey , i care so much about you and i love you boo.” Thankyou God for giving me an angel inform of a beautiful human being i call her my ess.

Avoid friends who use your weaknesses to destroy you ,they are the worst people you can be around ,you can’t trust them and they can never bring out the best in you they will always find new weaknesses to put you down , find friends who can vouch for you in truth , a friend who is always there with you no matter what and never judges you and above all has pure intentions for you as you do for them ,they are rare and bliss.

3.love is hard work.

Me saying this right now…….this is the funniest reality check ave ever had to snap myself from ,am actually laughing so hard hard right now ,yeap whoever said that love is full of roses and chocolates or all breakfast in bed and all the kisses and fairy tales .well that only happens in netflix movies and romantic novels .snap back into reality! Hahahahaha!so funny.

Wait till the arguments begin and the ” we dont match atol” kicks in ,yeah you actually don’t match coz he was brought up from a different family as yours ,you both have different beliefs and aspects about most of the things if not all ,he leaves his dirty socks anywhere and you have to follow up ,yes trust me its like a job , a fulltime job ,ave not yet reached motherhood but i know for sure it scares me ,combining motherhood plus being a wife i honestly don’t know how my mama did it . But i came to appreciate the individualism of me and my partner and yes we don’t have to agree all the time but if this is the person you can’t risk loosing or he/she is your significant other and you know you have to do life with for forever then be ready and willing to sacrifice , compromise! Compromise! Yes like yeah you have to be ready to compromise coz it won’t hurt or won’t interfere with your future, love one another as christ loved the church, pray together and for one another, be ready to bring out the best in each other, encourage , be patient alot ,coz there are many times you will want to give up more than you will want to stay and make it work.but be patient ,be loyal and truthful to each other ,learn each other’s love language , know when to bring up an argument and when to overlook small mistakes coz trust me if you put it upon yourself to notice and react upon each and every small mistake he/she does you will live in a frustrated house everyday. But above all there is hope it gets better , love doesn’t stand alone ,there is respect ,there is loyalty ,there is submission, and all the good attributes that make love more fruitfull and beautiful.

4.live in the moment.

As the saying goes ,we only live once ,one day we shall all leave this world behind so spend it doing things you love ,let no one ever force you to do something you are not comfortable doing or someone make you feel you are not good enough .live as if it was your last day of course we all sleep having hopes that tomorrow will be different ,that tomorrow we will wake up and try again ,that there is a better tomorrow .what if we don’t wake up? What if we try tomorrow and still don’t make it? But we can try today , we can live a little more today ,we can spread as much peace and love today, we can do something good to people today , we can actually stop judging others based on their religions ,choice of preferences, whoever they choose to love ,social classes , we can all just live in the moment be happy , encourage ,laugh a little more , we can even save someone’s life . We never know what tomorrow will bring ,so i say do your best today be at good terms with people ,forgive more often coz we don’t know the last day in anyone’s life ,i hope you will be satisfied with the last conversation you had with your friends or family or even the gateman or the shopkeeper .lets all live for now and give it our best.

5.The secret of getting ahead is getting started.

In my journey i realise that often so many people are afraid to even begin ,why? Because of the fear of “what if” what if i don’t make it ,what if it doesnt do well ,what if i fail flat ,fear of failure ,fear of anxiety ,will it be fruitfull ?,will it bring profit?, I can go on telling you about the many fears that comes before you start something am writing this blog but with the question ,”will people read it ?, Are they going to like or even love it?”its a battle trust me and it begins in the mind you are passionate about doing something that you are sure is going to bring out the best results but you are not sure you want failure , Accepting failure is accepting to try again to stand tall and face it again doing it different this time … Dare to be you , dare to start your business ,dare to apply that dream job ,dare to stand up for the one’s being bullied ,dare to start your own company . But just start from anywhere ,somewhere , then you are brave enough to face all that comes with it ,i won’t promise you that its easy but its worth it ,it is life changing and most definitely the best thing you will ever do to yourself ,overcome that fear and do it anyway ,Start today ,its the beginning of a journey that will bring you the best .❤️